Why compete? What drives women to need to be “better” or “as good as” other women? Why do we need to diminish others abilities so we feel more comfortable with our own?
After my last post, I really sat down and started thinking about this. I’ve prayed through it and thought through scripture. I have only one conclusion. This all comes from an identity issue.
The need to do any of this does not mean the world is actually in competition with you, but it does reflect something in your heart. It shows a heart issue because it paints the picture of how we see ourselves. If for whatever reason we see a “lack” in whatever area, we feel the need to strive to measure up, then we are not satisfied or fully aware of who we are in the Lord.
If you are a Christian, who you are is established and rooted in Christ. When someone belongs to Christ, He establishes His righteousness in them. When God sees you He sees His Son because of the work on the cross. This is what the Bible says:
- “For you are a people holy to the LORD your God, and the LORD has chosen you to be a people for his treasured possession, out of all the peoples who are on the face of the earth.” Deuteronomy 14:2
- “…even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, to the praise of his glorious grace, with which he has blessed us in the Beloved.” Ephesians 1:4-6
- “Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” Ephesians 5:1-2
- “Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.” 1 John 4:11-12
According to God’s purpose you have been given what you need to exalt His name to the praise of HIS glory, not yours. You do not need to compete with other women through imitating the way they do things. Instead shine the light in this world that imitates the character of God. In love, spur on and encourage other women in their efforts that they might see the fullness of their gifts and talents and use them to glorify God. Let us sacrifice this pride that fuels the need to compete and measure up and in its place grow humble, sacrificing hearts like the heart of Christ on the cross. Let us do this all in love. Whatever your gift or talent is, embrace it and find a way to use it in God’s kingdom. God has given you something to share in this world, and He specifically gave it to you for a reason. We know God’s love, and how we share it shows that to a world that desperately needs it. Do you not remember the moment that you realized how much you needed God’s love? Let our very gracious and loving presence show His love so much that people would be drawn to God just by where we set our feet. Do not be drawn into this pride driven way of living. There is no fruit or value or joy in it.
This is all in you if you have Christ as a Savior. He has called you so many beautiful things, but He has also called you to so many beautiful things. One of those is resting in Him and knowing that as you seek to walk with Him and know Him more, He will continuously teach you who you are.
That knowledge is something that can not be shaken. No matter what doubts come or circumstances change, who you are in that place will not be moved. It is steadfast, rooted and established in Christ’s faithfulness and work in you!
I will close by sharing two verses. I have so much hope for the body of Christ to grow into ourselves and strengths, and I have so much hope for my sisters that struggle in this place. Freedom from this has already been purchased, and my hope is that we would ever fix our eyes on Jesus. In doing that, nothing anyone else does can define or drive us try to be like anyone but Him.
“Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” Colossians 3:12-17
“For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, in proportion to our faith; if service, in our serving; the one who teaches, in his teaching; the one who exhorts, in his exhortation; the one who contributes, in generosity; the one who leads, with zeal; the one who does acts of mercy, with cheerfulness.” Romans 12:4-8